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Despite having a mature perspective and roaming around with the label of “beauty inside out”, at the end of the day most of us end up believing in “love at first sight”. You just see a person and fall for him or her, without knowing the person truly and deeply. You think that your attraction gets transformed into love. But had that been the possibility for the first time, you wouldn’t be having trouble with your partner today. And this realization dawns upon you so late that it becomes almost impossible to step out of that toxic relationship. You feel helpless and alone. The whole theory of “love just happens” gets transformed into “love is blind”! Some people get out of these burdening relationships while some still linger on in order to find a perfect way out. If you are someone who has a tendency to fall for toxic people, here are some warnings to look out for:
Too Much Fighting
People often tend to confuse the constant bickering with normal fighting in a relationship. Although fights are a sign of a healthy relationship because they delineate that you still are interested in kwowing each other’s opinions and after the heated discussion, you get to know more about your partner, but you need to realise when that fight turns into an arguement which pulls you apart. If you find yourself nagging and bickering a lot with your partner, discuss the issue with him seriously, or else, stop delaying your back out.
Do Opposites Really Attract?
“Opposites attract” has become like a love-motto nowadays. Everyone seems to fall for a person who has a different taste of interests and looks at the world uniquely. But not everyone can spend their whole life with someone who has no common grounds with them. If the differences between you and your partner are ruling your love out of your lives, it’s time to understand that you are not meant for each other. Root for someone with mutual inclinations and interests so that you don’t come out to be strangers at the end. In the end, “Anybody can look at you. It’s rare to find someone who sees the same world you see”.
Got Some Time?
Are your schedules so inflexible that you are unable to take out some time for your partner? Is the mutual interaction between you and your partner decreasing with the increasing number of business meetings lined up? If yes, turn your back to such a relationship. If you are unable to meet your partner daily and spend some time together, what is the use of such love? Find someone who takes out time for you and for whom, you are able to, too.
Do you keep imagining the worst-case scenarios for your relationship? Do you feel a need to check your partner’s phone all the time? Do you feel like testing your love? If yes, there’s is a much bigger problem in your relationship than you know! Having these thoughts show that somewhere, you are insecure about your partner and that your trust is fading. Take this as a serious issue because this is the leading cause of breakups nowadays.
Are You The Only One Putting Efforts?
Does it seem as if you are putting way too much efforts to let your relationship strive till the end? Is your energy and time being drained for a person who doesn’t reciprocate? If it’s a yes again, jump out of that relationship immediately! There’s no need to waste all your efforts and love on a person who doesn’t value them!
Are You Mentally Exhausted?
If the relationship doesn’t excite you and rather keeps you drowned in worries and nightmares all the time, it’s time you voice out and show yourself some mercy. Think of what makes you happy and if your partner seems nowhere near that picture, you definitely need to bring some big changes in your life.
The Invisible Future
What comes to your mind when you imagine a future with your partner: a sweet and beautiful family or complete blankness? If it’s the latter, there’s no going on with the relationship. If you think of having a future but cannot place your partner in that, then it is a high risk that what you took for love is nothing but attraction.
Lack Of Understanding
There are times when you just stop ‘zinging’ with each other. Your vibes don’t match, the way you both look at the world is different, and above all, you just stop understanding each other one day. If you feel as if your partner is unable to decipher your emotions and needs, either take a break or wrap it up. Mutual understanding is the first necessity of any relationship/bond, and if there’s no such thing remained in yours, don’t prolong the ending.
The "Rushing" Partner
If your partner keeps rushing you regarding the future which is completely out of your frame of plans, think about it again. In the end, you would definitely want a stable partner and a stable lifestyle, but do you want to rush with everything which can make you miss on a lot of important things in life heading your way?
Let No One Dominate You Mentally
This is the biggest and the most toxic red-flag that many people voluntarily ignore. Do you feel as if your decisions, lifestyle, interests, etc are being affected by your partner? Are you beginning to forget your existence as an individual when you are around your partner? Are you scared that your choices might be “judged” by your partner? GET OUT of such a toxic and negative relationship if you are nodding right now. There’s nothing worse than being controlled by another person. You need someone who lets you be you.
Don't Let Anyone Break Your Privacy Bubble
Look out for activities of your partner that are hindering with your time for yourself. If your partner is unable to provide you your personal space bubble, there’s no need to waste your love upon the same. Walk out and find someone who respects your privacy.
It’s okay if you tend to avoid your close friends some time, but to think of excuses so that you get to stay within your comfort zone, is a sign in itself that you are no longer confortable with your partner. Rather than making excuses, plan a day out to meet and discuss the issue.
Is Your Potential Getting Decreased?
Is your “love-of-the-life” hitting on your self-esteem and ability to succeed? Have you been feeling lately as if your partner has not been motivating or inspiring you to achieve you goals, rather finds comfortable with you not worrying about your career? If the answer is yes, you are in a really wrong relationship!
Still Rooting For Someone Else?
Even if you aren’t facing any of the above signs, if you have seen this red flag even once, there’s a slight chance that soon you might be experiencing all of the above things. The biggest sign of not being happy with your partner is imagining a merrier life with someone else. If you keep dreaming about your past life or are hoping for someone else to come in, immediately drop out of such a relationship.