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Ever thought what makes movies a 100 billion dollar business worldwide, with stars pouring in and pouring out every single day? Well, it is their deep power to resonate with the masses and elevate them from their own reality. While movies are made from the perspective of entertainment, they can also give innate lessons of courage, self-worth and bravery. Keeping this theme in mind, I think there’s a section of society that can benefit heavily from the movies – and that is our middle-aged parents. Our exposure to the internet taught us so much, and we should do the same for our parents. Here are some movies that can give some supercool lessons of modernised parenting to our desi parents. Sneak a peek! 🙂
#1 Nil Battey Sannata
Nil Battey Sannata’s groundbreaking portrayal of a lower caste and underprivileged family took Swara to the Filmfare’s stage. When the movie’s protagonist, Chanda, learns about her daughter’s wish to assume the same life that she had, which is of a maid, Chanda gets furious and does everything in her power to steer her away from that life. Chanda doesn’t let the reality of her life take away the dreams of her daughter – something all of us take a lesson from.
#2 Barilley Ki Barfi
Barilley Ki Barfi tells a tale so ahead of its time. The rare, rare, middle-aged couple and their liberal take on life is a breath of fresh air amidst the cruel insurgence of conservatism rising in India. The movie goes out of the way to highlight issues like Thyroid induced mood swings, depression and failed case of arranged marriages. Desi parents can take quick lessons from this quirky set of parents.
#3 Shubh Mangal Savdhaan
While Shubh Mangal Savdhaan deals with the sensitive topics of Erectile Dysfunction and the stigma that sorrounds it, what stands it is the relentless support administered by the parents of both of the main characters. Trust me, desi kids want nothing more than the support of their parents during their personal struggles – and this movie perfectly highlights it.
Khoobsurat deals in intense contrast. While Kirron Kher plays the role of fairly understanding mother, while Ratna Shah plays a controlling and obsessive matriarch of a Royal family. Desi parents are somehow the best of these worlds, and acceptance of a child’s romantic life is something every parent should have – something that Khoobsurat teaches us.
23-year-old Indian Hero Neerja Bhanot died fighting for what she believed in. And such as exceptional soul was raised by a phenomenal set of parents, who gave her wings to fly and roots to come back to. Enveloped in Shabana’s brillance, Neerja’s mother’s agony was transcended poetically through the scenes of the movie. By understanding the gravity of Neerja’s sacrifice, her mother creates an inspiration for all desi parents to follow.
After years, we actually got to see the real portrayal of ageing parents. In the sublime storytelling of Piku, we saw the bittersweet relationship that the children share with their old parents. In Piku’s father, there was a sense of authority, a cohort of gossip and a hell of a lot of unwanted intrude, but what stayed with us was that it was as genuine as real life really is.
While Queen was a love letter to heartbroken girls everywhere, something that stood out from the movie was the extremely supporting parents of the movie’s protagonist, Rani. By deciding not just to send their daughter thousands of miles away at the wake of her ill fate, but also choosing to step back from the decisions of her life and letting her bloom into an independent-minded woman, they won over many hearts.
#8 Do Dooni Chaar
Do Dooni Chaar is based on the story of the Duggal Family, who despite their limited resources, navigate life in an exceptional way. The character of Rishi Kapoor is an outstanding ovation to every father out there, who tries very hard to give his family the best possible future. Little bursts of laughs along the way don’t hurt either.
#9 Jaane Tu Ya Jaane Na
Jaane Tu Ya Jaane Na remains to be a collosol coming-of-age movie for many youngsters of India. Based on the lives of college friends, this movie moved beyond the stereotypical portrayal of a mother-son relationship – and showed the audience about the blooming friendship that every mother shares with her son. In its comic, irritated and sharing core, the movie showed a dimension of parenthood that many Indians have never had.
#10 Secret Superstar
Secret Superstar is a beautiful story of how a mother literally shields her children from all the evils of the world Not only does she protects her daughter but also encourages her to pursue her dreams. And also, takes the right step for her betterment in the future.
#11 Waqt; A Race Against Time
Waqt was probably way ahead of its time in the means of conveying the strict rebuke of a father, who wants to bring his son onto a better path in life. In the movie, Amitabh’s character suffers from cancer, and in his remaining days, he really wants Akshay Kumar to become a responsible man, which could only have been possible once he completely disowns him. It is an extraordinary sense of storytelling and something our parents can surely learn a lot from.
#12 Vicky Donor
Vicky Donor deals with an exceptional story of a sperm donor, who finds love when he least expects it – and is determined to pursue it. But if we look a little beyond, it is his hysterical family that catches our eye. Both his mother and his grandmother sport a rather unusual lifestyle. In a typical Dehli fashion, they unwind their days with rounds of alcohol. And openly discuss many taboo issues. Something desi parents can surely take note of.
#13 3 Idiots
3 Idiots fashions a wide variety of parents. On one side, we have highly dependent parents, on the other, we have over-ambitious ones. We really can’t seem to find a balance of parenthood in that movie. But, the beauty in the contrast is what stands out the most. It is through the genuine portrayal of their innate struggles that we find the perfect mix of the tricky job that is parenting.
#14 Badhai ho
Badhai Ho is nothing like your basic Bollywood family drama. It is a steaming bowl of awkward situations not many want to be a part of. Ah! You all know the story. But we urge that you don’t lose the extraordinary storytelling of the movie, and the easy narrative it derives, which is – our parents are also humans, capable of justifiable emotions and desires. Desi parents should watch it and loosen up a bit.
#15 Wake Up Sid
Wake up Sid was quite a trailblazer, and way ahead of its time. Thanks to the exceptional direction of Ayan Mukherji, the story deals with a young brat, who is undecided of his future. But, all his tantrums and misdemeanours are met constructively by his mother, who truly wishes the world for her son. Kids should be given the liberty to discover themselves, something the movie describes perfectly.
How many of these movies are you gonna binge with your parents?
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